Steve and I in Spain
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Rules for Internet Dating: Part One
Trust Your Instincts...I tease my boyfriend that I "bought" him online.When you reach a certain age, you just aren't meeting people "out" anymore. I knew that the right person wasn't going to show up on my doorstep or in the grocery store (like every "where to meet guys" article indicated-ha!), so I took matters into my own proactive hands and decided to "try" it out. I was SO apprehensive and scared about the whole process. You can meet quality people or you can meet "the sludge", just like meeting in a more"organic" fashion....My first online date was a hot mess. I knew immediately that I was in no way, shape, or form attracted to him, BUT I gave 6 more dates to say "Next!"....All of my friends told me to "Give it a chance", but I now say, "Trust your instincts". Attraction to someone is not just in the physical sense, it's something about their personality as well. You might not be able to put your finger on the particulars, but you just KNOW when its there. It's a chemical connection. By the 6th mediocre date with this guy I found out that he had three children that he forgot to mention!? Who forgets to talk about their kids? Too funny. Had I trusted my instincts, I would have not wasted his or my time. When I met my BF, There was no questioning my initial reaction. I immediatley felt a mutual connection and that we were actually finishing each other's sentences. More internet rules to come (WAY too much for one blog!)
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Adrienne, I love your tales...you are a great writer and in a lot of ways I am drawing so many parallels. I didn't meet my boyfriend online, but we were set up on a blind date, and you are correct...when its right, you know it instantly! I was so nervous to go on a blind date, and I almost didn't go! I am so glad I did, because three years later, we are so happy! I like to joke with him saying..."not bad for a blind date I didn't want to go on!"
ReplyDeleteHa Ha! I love your conclusions about chemistry. Well, at 40+ it's A LOT more difficult to find Mr. Right (not to be confused with Mr. Right Now!) I wasn't looking! I went on a midnight bus trip from Jacksonville (my home) to Miami to catch a plane at noon the following day. It was mandatory to get off the bus in Orlando, so at 2 or 3 in the morning (who looks at their watch at that time) I head for the Greyhound terminal's snack line. I reached for an orange juice at the same time as this Indian dude (not Native American, the other kind.) He said I had nice calves. (I do.) The second question he asked was "Would I be willing to share my blanket on the bus?" Then he strongly suggested (after the remaining bus ride,)that I could either spend four hours alone at the airport or that same amount of time on the beach in Key Biscayne. BIG DECISION! It was truly love at first sight!!! We are at such different stages of our lives, I'm an empty nester (and quite happy about it) and he's preparing to become the caregiver to his elderly parents. So for now, the speedometers and frequent flyer miles are filling up and we are enjoying an incredible relationship for over two years....Good thing we both have an affection for citrus products!!!!!
ReplyDeleteYOU crack me up Cindy!!!...Life is a ride, isn't it?!....I love your story about how you met your dude...You have such a great attitude....This blogging is going to fun with you ladies...Chat soon, A.
ReplyDeleteA very close person to me was very apprehensive about trying online dating. When she started meeting people and dating, she was so embarassed to tell people how they met that she swore me to secrecy; I was the only one who knew. I tried to convince her a million times that she had nothing to be ashamed of and I used the reasons you shared above: where the heck are you supposed to meet guys now-a-days?! The gym? The library? The bar? Work? The grocery store? Online you can set search criteria that avoids all the unnecessaries we wished we'd had the power to screen before we met them. Sounds like you found a great guy, I'm so happy for you! Cheers!
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